Some time ago Sir Ralf Dahrendorf published a trenchant and rather depressing essay on the growing uncoupling of economic well-being, social cohesion, and political freedom in Europe. It was a sobering study in the transformation of contemporary politics where in one form or another the interrelated nature of all three has been considered a Public Good of vital importance. After all, the particular ideologies of political liberty characteristic of Western democracies -- and however mediated in practice -- have tended to encompass certain ideas of social cohesion and of economic wellbeing.
So much is clear in T. Marshall's famous conception of citizenship where the parsing out of citizen rights into their civic, political, and social components well illustrates both this status as Public Goods and their inherently interrelated nature. It may be recalled that more than forty years ago, Marshall distinguished between the political, civil, and social aspects of citizenship which he defined as follows: The civil element is composed of the rights necessary for individual freedom -- liberty of person, freedom of speech, thought and faith, the right to own property and to conclude valid contracts, and the right to justice [that is] the right to defend and assert all one's rights on term of equality with others and by due process of law.
As Public Goods all are, moreover, derivative of a particular concept of the individual as standing at the core of the moral and political orders. This concept of the individual as, pace Emile Durkheim, something "sacred and inviolable to others" has served -- within the modern West -- as that principle of generalized exchange which structures the exchange of resources in society mediating as it were the "free" flow of pure market exchange in such ways as to create and provide for these very Public Goods.
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What kinds of trust issues do couples face today that were virtually nonexistent only a decade ago? How can we best deal with events or situations that threaten to erode our trust and confidence? Trust can also be defined as a verb: as actions based on having confidence or trust in oneself. A number of psychologists recently reported that, over the past 10 years, there has been an unprecedented rise in trust issues among couples who seek counseling.
Today, hundreds of blogs, articles, and advice columns offer suggestions designed to help couples resolve troublesome trust issues. Many questionnaires are available to measure relational trust, trust in a relationship partner as well as global trust trust in human nature. Clearly, trust matters a great deal to a lot of people, especially to those of us who are striving to have a loving, fulfilling relationship. How children learn to trust was a fundamental question explored by several eminent developmental psychologists of the 20 th century, notably Erik Erikson, John Bowlby, and D.
Erikson proposed that infants develop basic trust when they have successfully resolved the first psychosocial crisis or opportunity in life, the conflict between Trust and Mistrust. A baby being raised by adults who respond consistently in trying to meet its needs develops trust by the end of the first year. Erikson asserted that the critical factor at this stage of development was the ratio of trust to mistrust. Higher levels of trust in children are closely related to secure attachment patterns.
Toddlers who trust their environment are generally those who have also formed a secure attachment to their parents or caregivers. In fact, attachment theorist John Bowlby concluded that basic trust, as defined by Erikson, is absolutely necessary for the healthy psychological development of the individual throughout the life span. He described the secure and insecure attachment patterns identified by Mary Ainsworth in one-year-old toddlers as being strong indicators of their level of trust. The betrayal of trust that occurs with child sexual abuse as well as with incidents of severe physical abuse over the long-term can trigger dissociative states in young victims.
Their double messages confuse children and play havoc with their sense of reality. Based on clinical research, he concluded that children learn to distrust their perceptions in social interactions when they have been confused and mystified by double messages experienced in their family. These painful events in childhood leave unseen scars and have a profound impact on us throughout life. In an attempt to protect ourselves, we build a system of defenses against our pain, confusion, and disillusionment.
These self-protective defenses help us preserve an illusion of strength and invulnerability, yet these same defenses limit our capacity for trusting others and for finding fulfillment in a close relationship. In an intimate relationship, trust is all important. They are built and maintained through our faith that we can believe what we are being told.
The Remarkable Truth about Trust
Mutual trust within happy couples is reinforced by the presence of oxytocin, a neuropeptide in the brain that expedites bonding between a newborn and its mother. By contrast, mistrust can disrupt even the most loving relationship. There are many situations that occur over the course of a relationship that can generate attitudes of mistrust and suspicion in one or both partners. Mixed messages create an atmosphere of confusion and alienation in couples by breaking down feelings of mutual trust.
Some people begin to doubt or distrust their partner almost as soon as they become involved because, deep down, they are afraid of intimacy and closeness. Others may respond to early indications of duplicity or untrustworthiness in their partner. For example, a young woman thought her new lover was spending less time with her than before.
When she mentioned this, he insisted that he loved her as much as ever. However, his words failed to reassure her, because his actions did not fit his seemingly supportive statements. Infidelity brings back all of those childhood wounds for a person who was lied to. Deception or betrayal of trust can have a more damaging effect on the relationship than the affair itself.
Lies and deceit shatter the reality of others, eroding their belief in the veracity of their perceptions and subjective experience. Mistrust, doubts and suspicions are strongly influenced by the critical inner voice.
This destructive thought process is part of the defense system we built as children; it consists of an internal dialogue that is antagonistic to our best interests and cynical toward other people. If we doubt ourselves, see ourselves as inadequate, or feel cynical toward other people, we are less likely to seek love and satisfaction in a relationship.
When we do find someone who genuinely acknowledges and loves us, we may begin to feel anxious because their positive view of us conflicts with our negative self-image. At this point, mistrust and self-doubt can take over our rational thinking. Or it may focus on and exaggerate any flaws in the person who loves us, and we start being picky and critical.
Gender stereotypes and sexist attitudes represent an extension of the critical inner voice into a cultural framework. Ironically, some of our inner voices may strike us as friendly and protective. He she had second thoughts.
What is he she doing! Where is he she going? What if he she meets someone else at work, at that party? Your life will be over. To rebuild trust after a betrayal, partners need to identify the critical inner voices that continue to fuel mistrust, keeping them stuck in the past. If infidelity caused the break in trust, they also need to have an extended conversation about what each person wants; whether to recommit to the relationship or go their separate ways.
Compassion for the other person is what makes forgiveness possible…Both partners must seek and grant forgiveness for the part they played in marital problems that preceded the infidelity or for hurtful behaviors that followed the revalation of the betrayal. When the critical inner voice is ascendant in our thinking, we tend to become cynical and scornful toward other people. These negative attitudes are corrosive to the human spirit; they hurt us and our loved ones as well. An attitude of healthy skepticism is a part of the real self, whereas cynicism belongs to the anti-self, that part of the personality that damages our self-esteem and interferes with our relationships.
In conclusion, trust matters a great deal; it helps preserve the love, affection, and tenderness that partners feel toward each other during the beginning phases of their relationship. These feelings of mutual trust continue to sustain them through the inevitable vicissitudes — the ups and downs in every relationship — that they will encounter in the years that follow.
I even took notes!!! Is it healthy or harmful? Hey, my g.
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Thank you for this article, it is insightful and well written. I agree with everyone else. I knew I have trust issues, but really could not pinpoint where they came from.